Time and Patience -Key to Relationships
Time and patience are desired by many. Time to accomplish dreams and patience to wait for the fruition of dreams. Spring Break 2017 provided me the opportunity to reflect on the importance of not only time but also patience. Both are required to develop meaningful relationships. Many Edu Gladiators are espousing that relationships are critical to learning. What they tend to leave out is that the path to building significant relationships is messy. Time and patience are required. A relationship is not built on one sticky note to a student or one fist bump in the hallway. Relationships are built on trust developed over time.
The much lauded Simon Sinek @simonsinek spoke this fall about the challenge of working with millennials and the importance of time. Specifically, he spoke about what is needed to develop deep, meaningful relationships. Sinek spoke passionately about the need to help our millennials learn how to become successful human beings. He suggested that due to no fault of their own, our millennials are a generation with lower self-esteem than any other generation.
“Everything you want- except job satisfaction and strength of relationships. There ain’t no app for that. They are slow, meandering, uncomfortable, messy processes.”
Millennial educators need assistance in learning to build persistence and grit in their careers. Since 17% of educators leave their positions within five years, and with the looming National Teacher shortage impacting our most at-risk students, schools must be intentional in the way they work with millennials. Millennials sincerely desire to make an impact. The famous anonymous saying, “To teach is to touch a life forever” is often misunderstood. Teachers do without a doubt make a difference. But, that difference is rarely immediate. Teachers have to develop the persistence to stay on the “slow, meandering, uncomfortable, and messy” path. They need continual guidance and support to stay the path to see positive outcomes. Without this guidance and support, our millennial teachers may leave the profession and/or develop anxiety and depression. Why? We want our millennials to find true joy in life. We want happy, healthy teachers.
Patience and persistence are developed over time. As Leo Tolstoy said, “The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.”
We can and should help.
Suzanne Rogers, M.Ed
District Director of Professional development, AP English teacher, ELA Coach and cradle United Methodist. http://rogerssuzannem.blogspot.com